In the book, How Will You Measure Your Life?, two topics stood out to me. The first is the idea of what makes me tick. For me, this encompasses the idea of my potential family. All I do today and have done in the past, has been motivated by the idea of having my own strong family foundation. The second topic that grabbed my attention was the idea of a deliberate strategy. This is a difficult subject for me, primarily because I constantly find myself questioning if I even have one. As I contemplate more about the idea, I believe I do. Currently my deliberate strategy is not as clear as I would hope. Both topics have been presented to me, by this book, at a time in my life that it is important to understand what exactly motivates me and my plan to get to where I want to go. Which is why these are the two topics I will discuss.
So, what makes me tick? Well, growing up, I did not have an extremely solid family foundation. My parents spilt at a young age. My mother and my sisters and I, all moved to from Morgantown to Elkins. Elkins is where I spent a bigger portion of my life. It is also where I met my best friends, went to school, and became the person I am today. Not until college, did I get the chance to move into the house I lived in at a very young child with my dad. Because of this, I finally was able to connect with my father. We became close for the first time in my life. He was finally my friend. Now, fast forward years later, my parents moved back in together. We are all living under the same roof for the first time in years.
I provide this back story, primarily because it is the foundation of what makes me tick. The way I grew up is what motivates me to pursue a solid foundation for my family when I begin to settle down. I realize that in the book, the motivation theory was tied to finding happiness within one’s career. While my career choices and future opportunities are important to me, I am more motivated by the idea of having a solid family base, where my children are able to grow up in an unbroken home. Honestly, it is not so much that my family was broken, but the idea that my parents while as they had tried, were absent in many different ways in my life.
It was not until I was able to experience another family with a strong foundation that I realized I wanted the same for my family. Growing up, I only knew the way my family functioned and that is how I thought I would create my family. After experiencing another family’s culture, I understood I wanted something different. I want a strong bond with my family, where we turn down the television on commercials and talk about our days. A family that supports one another by going to sporting events and putting each other first, before all else. A family that is religious and dedicated to going to church on Sunday’s. This is truly what motivates me in everything I do, including who I surround myself with and being the best person I can.
Next is my deliberate strategy, my plan to get where I hope to go. This is difficult, because I have continually struggled with the idea of 5 years down the road plans. My mind changes constantly and I have always seen the world as being unexpected. In my opinion, plans are what we make while life is happening around us. Indeed, I have spoken to other people about their future plans regarding their careers. Truly, I wish the best for them and hope they are able to stick to those plans. For me, my deliberate strategy is a little deliberately unplanned. When I look ahead, I see a wide-open field and not a straight road. Eventually I will make it through the field, but the path I take is unknown.
While I do believe that my deliberate strategy, or lack thereof, needs work. I do not stress it as much as I used to. I trust myself that as long as I am working vertically towards a higher position in life, to better myself, than I am moving in the right direction. If I ever find myself working horizontally, that is when issues will arise. I may sound more adaptable than I actually am, but I do believe that there are so many opportunities out there that I need to be open to more than a single one. On the other hand, it is always better to have a plan. So, I intend to work every day to find mine, while remaining adaptable.
All in all, as I read How Will You Measure Your Life?, I was constantly thinking about how I would go about doing so. How will I measure my life? As I get older and more time passes, how exactly will I know if I am living my life that way I hope to? Truth be told, I think it takes years to be able to measure your life. You cannot measure something that has yet to exist. So as the future becomes the present, I will always strive to be the best person I can and eventually build the strong family I strive to one day create as well as work towards a plan to get me there. As long as my actions are improvements, I will measure my life as successful. I will always move forward.