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How Will You?

In the book, How Will You Measure Your Life?, two topics stood out to me. The first is the idea of what makes me tick. For me, this encompasses the idea of my potential family. All I do today and have done in the past, has been motivated by the idea of having my own strong family foundation. The second topic that grabbed my attention was the idea of a deliberate strategy. This is a difficult subject for me, primarily because I constantly find myself questioning if I even have one. As I contemplate more about the idea, I believe I do. Currently my deliberate strategy is not as clear as I would hope. Both topics have been presented to me, by this book, at a time in my life that it is important to understand what exactly motivates me and my plan to get to where I want to go. Which is why these are the two topics I will discuss.

So, what makes me tick? Well, growing up, I did not have an extremely solid family foundation. My parents spilt at a young age. My mother and my sisters and I, all moved to from Morgantown to Elkins. Elkins is where I spent a bigger portion of my life. It is also where I met my best friends, went to school, and became the person I am today. Not until college, did I get the chance to move into the house I lived in at a very young child with my dad. Because of this, I finally was able to connect with my father. We became close for the first time in my life. He was finally my friend. Now, fast forward years later, my parents moved back in together. We are all living under the same roof for the first time in years.

I provide this back story, primarily because it is the foundation of what makes me tick. The way I grew up is what motivates me to pursue a solid foundation for my family when I begin to settle down. I realize that in the book, the motivation theory was tied to finding happiness within one’s career. While my career choices and future opportunities are important to me, I am more motivated by the idea of having a solid family base, where my children are able to grow up in an unbroken home. Honestly, it is not so much that my family was broken, but the idea that my parents while as they had tried, were absent in many different ways in my life.

It was not until I was able to experience another family with a strong foundation that I realized I wanted the same for my family. Growing up, I only knew the way my family functioned and that is how I thought I would create my family. After experiencing another family’s culture, I understood I wanted something different. I want a strong bond with my family, where we turn down the television on commercials and talk about our days. A family that supports one another by going to sporting events and putting each other first, before all else. A family that is religious and dedicated to going to church on Sunday’s. This is truly what motivates me in everything I do, including who I surround myself with and being the best person I can.

Next is my deliberate strategy, my plan to get where I hope to go. This is difficult, because I have continually struggled with the idea of 5 years down the road plans. My mind changes constantly and I have always seen the world as being unexpected.IMG_3981 In my opinion, plans are what we make while life is happening around us. Indeed, I have spoken to other people about their future plans regarding their careers. Truly, I wish the best for them and hope they are able to stick to those plans. For me, my deliberate strategy is a little deliberately unplanned. When I look ahead, I see a wide-open field and not a straight road. Eventually I will make it through the field, but the path I take is unknown.

While I do believe that my deliberate strategy, or lack thereof, needs work. I do not stress it as much as I used to. I trust myself that as long as I am working vertically towards a higher position in life, to better myself, than I am moving in the right direction. If I ever find myself working horizontally, that is when issues will arise. I may sound more adaptable than I actually am, but I do believe that there are so many opportunities out there that I need to be open to more than a single one. On the other hand, it is always better to have a plan. So, I intend to work every day to find mine, while remaining adaptable.

All in all, as I read How Will You Measure Your Life?, I was constantly thinking about how I would go about doing so. How will I measure my life? As I get older and more time passes, how exactly will I know if I am living my life that way I hope to? Truth be told, I think it takes years to be able to measure your life. You cannot measure something that has yet to exist. So as the future becomes the present, I will always strive to be the best person I can and eventually build the strong family I strive to one day create as well as work towards a plan to get me there. As long as my actions are improvements, I will measure my life as successful. I will always move forward.

 

Will I Find My Place?

It may seem that in order to be successful in life, it is mandatory that we should be living our dream lives by now or at least have an idea of where we are headed. Knowing everything seems like a necessity. For me, finding my place today is not going to happen. Right now, I couldn’t tell you precisely what I want. Is this as large of a setback as I think? Every day I consciously try to figure out where I went wrong and how to correct it. Is there anything I can do for immediate gratification that one day I will be exactly where I want? In order for this to happen, don’t I need a plan?

The idea of finding your place is tied to success, in my opinion. Success may be measured in countless ways, such as: financial stability, job stability, or simply overall happiness. Success is viewed differently by everyone.

As I go through the motions of studying for exams, looking for jobs (when I already currently work three), and taking what little time I have for myself, it can seem that finding my place is a struggle. With graduation quickly approaching, it could not seem more crucial that I need to take action and have a plan set prior to walking across the stage to receive my slip of paper telling me, “You did it! Now what?”.

Currently, I know at graduation, I will feel like the only one without a plan in a sea of other graduates. From people telling me where the money is, to keep doors open, to have a set plan, trying to determine what I want out of my future and where I will fit in has deemed to be a problem for me. So, what do I do? Everything seems to be at stake, and everyone else looks like they have it all together.

Being a twin, I get faced with the reality of being a sister of a book smart girl who has wanted to be a pharmacist since a very young age. She has taken all the essential steps to a highly successful future. Imagine when people ask the two of us what we are studying in school. I say “Marketing” and she replies, “Pharmacy”. People take more interest in her than me at that point. On the off chance, they ask what I will be doing with my marketing degree, I reply, “Right now, I am keeping my options open.” It is hard not to think that they may see me as a girl who doesn’t know what she wants. Keep in mind, this is exactly how I feel, so they are not wrong. But what can I do to change this?

It may be as simple as reminding myself that success is not measured in comparison with others, it is measured in self-growth and realization.

As I continue to consider if I will ever find my place, I think it is important to remember that no matter what, eventually I will. Everyone will eventually find their place.

Although I may still find myself curious to when I will have all the answers, I will try to focus more on the idea of when will I find my place rather than what if I don’t. If there is not a place for me, I will undoubtedly create one whether I can tell it or not. In that, I will be successful.

 

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Life is not hard, we just make it that way.

My Interview Experience

With my past work experience, I never felt anxious in an interview. As I near graduation, the interview process has become increasingly important. I am now looking for a position to jump start my career. What if there is always a better candidate? How will I stack up against the competition? Will I give myself too many options? pexels-photo-355952Will I turn down an opportunity that I shouldn’t? Many concerns come into play when trying to find my place after college. Every college student goes through periods of uncertainty, making it easy to become overwhelmed. The interview process can be terrifying. My unknown future is hanging in the balance of those who will try to get to know me through a white page with black ink and 30 minutes of my time.

My first job was at Stonewall Resort. I was 16 and the interview process was rather simple. My mother currently worked at the resort and so did my older sister. Because of their work ethic, my boss wanted to recruit me as soon as I turned 16 as a Golf Cart Attendant at the Arnold Palmer Signature Golf Course. The interview process involved new hire paperwork and orientation. The job was already mine, because of the people I was related to. This was a nice feeling.

As I continued to work during summers at Stonewall, I wanted to gain internship experience while in school. I applied to WVU Arts and Entertainment. Not knowing what I was walking into, I sat down to be interviewed by five different employers. Each of their own department. I was answering behavioral questions that would be applied to each position specially. While being questioned for multiple positions, the head management of the department sat in the corner and listened to the interview discussion. Even though this experience was extremely stressful, I received an offer and have excelled in my position.

Neither of my past experiences can relate to the interview process for a job following graduation. So much hangs in the balance. As I continue to look for positions, I must keep up with my classes and current internships. With the anxiety and stress that comes with the interview process, I constantly remain prepared. This has proved to be the most important aspect of diving into the interview process.

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Just remember that every opportunity is an experience that brings a lesson. Remember those lessons and keep them with you. As you try new things and meet new people more doors will open. Yes, some doors close and disappointment may be a recurring feeling, but once you find your place it will all be worth the effort. Make friends and memories and live now, so you can live your future.

 

She said, ” I know it’s hard to believe, but when one door closes, another door always opens. It really does.” Yeah, I know, I had heard that very clever saying before. She was right, I didn’t believe it, but I never forgot it. – Lisa Kudrow (Commencement Speech)

Caitlin Gutta: My Story

Everybody starts somewhere and no two journeys are the same.

My journey began when I was born in Morgantown, WV on April 4, 1996.  By the time I turned 5 years old, I would move to Elkins, WV.  I attended elementary, middle, and high school in Elkins and enjoyed everyday of it. I returned to Morgantown in the fall of 2014 to attend West Virginia University’s College of Business and Economics.

While in high school, I participated in multiple sports teams and committees. Being part of tennisa high school sport team, was most certainly, a experience I enjoyed. From track, cheerleading, and tennis, I learned valuable lessons which only being apart of a team can teach a young adult. Sports brought out my competitive side and my willingness to work hard to achieve a goal. As luck and hard work would have it, both my junior and senior year, my doubles partner (twin sister) and I would become Conference Champions. Then regional champs our junior year and regional runner-up our senior year. After regionals, we would then continue to participate in the state tennis tournament held in Charleston, WV. We were the first pair to win a regional title for Elkins High School tennis in years. Our coach being the last to do so when he played tennis for Elkins. Who would have thought that before our first practice, we learned the basics of tennis on the Wii in our living room. Then with the addition of amazing coaches, we were trained and guided into the best players we could be.

Also in high school I served on student council and class council. Being senior princessactive in my school led to many great experiences, such as being inducted into the National Honor Society and attending Girls State. I also was assigned the privilege of morning announcements spokesperson my junior year. I was voted as a class princess my senior year. My twin sister Bradley was also a princess, which made the experience more memorable. While high school was a rather exciting time, and like most I wouldn’t mind going back, college brought on a whole new world of experiences.

Moving back to Morgantown was a change I wasn’t ready to make. I knew I would miss my small town, but it was time. Luckily I had my older sister and father in Morgantown with me. It seemed only right that my freshman year, I would try my hand at competitive cheerleading at the college level. Both my sisters and I made the 2014 West Virginia University’s Competitive Cheer Team. cheerIt was an experience I will never forget. The process of learning a new routine and hours of practice to make it all work, helped me learn dedication and build trust in others. The season started in August and was full of hours and hours of practice for many months to prepare ourselves for Cheerleading Nationals in Daytona, FL in April. In the end, with about 30 teams total in the Intermediate All Girls Division, we would place 6th at Nationals. The friends I made and competing at a national level, will be an experience I will never forget.

As college continued, I applied and accepted an internship at WVU Arts and Entertainment. Being able to see everything that goes on behind that scenes to make a show run seamlessly for ticket holders, was an idea that always fascinated me. As a guest services intern, I work various positions and take on roles that allow me to respect each detail that goes IMG_3300into making a show possible. This internship led to another in the WVU Arts and Entertainment marketing department. Now not only do I get to be a piece of making the show possible, but I get to market the shows before they even hit the stage.

As college comes to a close, theres no telling exactly where life will lead. With my past experiences and interest in marketing, I hope that there are many more memorable parts of my journey to come. As I continue on to graduation, I intend to gear myself into a career path that keeps me on my toes, connecting with people, and me moving in the right direction.